This book by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith will only take you 4 hours. And this time is definitely worth it. It is a handy road map of the “How to rise” recipe (not only) for women, but also for men, perfectionists, people who are reluctant to claim their achievements, people who are too emotional at work, imposters, and introverts.
There are twelve habits that hold women back:
- Reluctance to claim your achievements
- Expecting others to spontaneously notice and reward your contributions
- Overvaluing expertise
- Just building rather than building and leveraging relationships
- Failure to enlist allies from day one
- Putting your job before your career
- The perfection trap
- The disease to please
- Too much
- Letting your radar distract you
- Don’t struggle to claim credit for your achievements. The opposite can cost you throughout your career. Don’t feel awkward to speak about what you contributed to. It only sends a signal that you are ready to rise. The most superb female leaders are occasionally making some noise about their achievements.
- Alliances are more important than what you know. Who-centric approach: More support, greater visibility, less isolation, and a lot less work. Women are failing to enlist allies from day one, they feel like a burden — they keep their heads down until they master details. While men are starting a new position with the question of who should I connect with to make this job successful, women want to feel fully prepared before they start reaching out.
- The “SuperB” women and men reach out to others first instead of waiting for others to come to them. They go out of their way to connect people one with another. Even if they do not know them particularly.
- Allies are your brand. For this — there is one old gold book “Brand called You” from the seventies.
- Your brand = Your skills + Your reputation + How you present yourself + Your connection.
- Not only us, women, take failures to our heart, and sometimes it takes longer to move on.
And few last motivational words from Marshall Goldsmith:
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
“Please don’t be too hard on yourself” — “women are much harder on themselves than men are. They tend to worry more about their perceived faults and feel greater pressure to make improvements. This can be useful because it makes you willing to change. But getting caught up in self-reproach, or beating yourself up for being a flawed human being, is always counterproductive. You can’t lead, and you can’t make helpful improvements in your behavior, if you’re constantly berating yourself”.